The Buddhists have a saying, “You should meditate 20 minutes a day unless you don’t have time. In which case, you’ll need 40 minutes a day.” That sentiment was the organizing principle behind our recent ladies trip to upstate New York.
It was a glorious, leave-the-convertible-top-down-at-night kind of weekend.
After weeks of logistical gymnastics, my friends and I suddenly realized, “It’ll never get any easier to make time for each other.” As our lives expand and our calendars contract, there will only be more obstacles to contend with. So we simply stopped looking for the mythical perfect storm of convenience and cheap flights.
Within days, we’d booked a renovated barn in Tivoli, New York for the second weekend in May through Glamping Hub. In fact, using Glamping Hub opened up a new world of accommodations for us. Places we’d never have access to – or even knowledge of – were suddenly at our fingertips. We pounced right as winter retreated.
Most of us have been friends since grad school. Few things about our lives have remained unchanged since we first met ten years ago. And yet, if you squint hard enough, the contour of our 24 year old selves – hard-edged but soft-hearted – can still be seen on a hot May afternoon down by the swimming hole.
We spent the weekend not washing our hair and sliding vegetables onto endless skewers. We tried ideas out on each other, slipped in and out of our 30-something identities and let intimate questions tumble out of our mouths after too much cheap rosé.
Tivoli was a pocket of suspended springtime and we took full advantage. We explored neighboring towns and frittered away the hours in hammocks. Temperatures soared into the 90’s. Collectively, we agreed this was a sure sign we should steep in our laziness like waterlogged tea bags at high noon. Who was I to argue?
Catching the flight back home to San Francisco was a jarring shove back into reality. I find myself still recovering from a rough case of weekend whiplash. Of course, there’s already talk of next year’s trip with unicorn destinations like Cappadocia making the rounds.
Some people close their eyes and spin the globe to find their next great adventure. I discovered during our weekend in Tivoli that we can blindfold ourselves, point to a weekend on the calendar and make it work even as the demands in our lives bubble over.